![]() ![]() Start with, "Dear Fear," and let 'em have it. Goodbye, non dear, Fear, I don't need you anymore. You can no longer make me blind to your tricks and tactics. I can fly in a plane, I can present a workshop, I can go to the concert. I can trust myself, I can take action to get rid of you. Making me forget my skills and abilities to trust myself and take action toward my goals. Nobody deserves this kind of life- a life with you convincing me that you can control me. Don't just leave me and bother someone else. I want adventures, experiences, and fun! (Nothing that you have allowed during your tyranny.) I want to do what I want to do, love who I want to love, and try new things. You can no longer control me, my life, OR my relationships. Leaving me nothing for me, for my kids, for my partner. Your constant worry thoughts have sucked out all of my energy. You kept me down and out, confused, angry and irritable. You have never been my friend, wanting what you want instead of what would make me happy. It has not been fair that you keep me down and out. I have had it with your warnings that "something bad will happen" or that "I would embarrass myself" or "it will be awful." ![]() No more will I allow myself to listen to your lies, anxiety, telling me that I can't handle life, that I have to stay home, seclude myself, and miss out on the fun. I will no longer let you stop me from being who I can be. I am not sorry to say that this relationship is over! I have panicked enough! And I am done with you. Do you feel better afterward? Do you find it enjoyable? Are you relieved that it's over? Reflect on the experience and think about it critically.You are not dear, Fear. Most will continue to finish watching a scary movie or want to experience a fear-evoking activity to gain that sense of closure and understand the outcome.įor this Halloween, if you watch a scary movie, go to a haunted house, or play a scary video game, think about how you feel and what sensations your body is feeling. Most people love for things to have closure and be wrapped up in a way that makes sense. If they can handle all of the anxiety, suspense, and fear, the person can feel a sense of self-satisfaction.īeing close with others: Given that being frightened releases biochemical flooding that can cause an enjoyable outcome, we often incorrectly attribute this outcome of fear to the individual you are spending time with, with a positive association and feeling with the time they spend together.Ĭuriosity: Many people are curious, and the fear of the unknown is one of the most instinctual fears we have and the most interesting. Self-satisfaction: Some people enjoy seeking thrills and how much fear they can tolerate. This biochemical rush often results in a happy/enjoyable feeling. Our bodies will calm down, and some will enjoy the experience and continue to seek "controlled fear."įlooding: When we are scared, we experience a rush of adrenaline and the release of endorphins and dopamine. If we are in a setting where we feel "safe fright" watching a horror film, visiting a haunted house, or playing a horror video game, our brains quickly evaluate the situation and tell us that we are not in danger. Our brains are good at acknowledging danger or the possibility of danger. Safety net: When you feel scared, your body will go into fight, flight, or freeze mode. So why do you think so many people like to feel scared? Pounding heartbeat, heavy breathing, having a cold sweat, butterflies in your stomach these don't sound like a fun experience, but we endure them when we feel fear. Halloween is around the corner, and some of us willingly put ourselves through fear and suspense. ![]()
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